it's a SHRINK business

i got a call from my long-time-no-see friend, Ben, a couple of nights ago. He sounded rather gloomy so i made a point to 'serkap jarang' the causes of his unlively mood that night.

"so how's work lately?"

"oh i'm been busy with bla..bla..bla"

so definitely not work related as he seemed excited with the current project he's handling

"who is she?"

"she who? No one la Di, i just feel like talking to you tonite"

"what happened exactly?"

(silence) "we just stopped talking to each other. i guess it has got to do with something i did to her and something she said to my face. At one point i feel like she was just a nuisance. It was uncalled for. i was caught up with work and i can't believe how unrealistic she could become over such petty matter.the things she said to me was demoralising and i couldn't believe they came from her. we were not exclusively dating after all, so what's up with that woman?

(silence) u know what Di, i could think of thousands of her silly antics but sometimes i wish my cell would ring and all i want to hear is the sound of her sweet voice on the other line. miss her late nite wishes she used to bid me. a good friend she is..was" sigh

bullseye! trust me, with just that 3-word question + believable concern expression, any man is eveready to pour his heart out. And i can't help but to act as Ben's overpaid shrink the whole conversation.

"huh. u know what i think Ben? i bet she misses you too. Probably all you both need is a simple statement of Sorry. And believe me, it's not her ego she's protecting, she's just being a girl. And a girl needs a man to start over. If you really like her as a friend, you should start treating her like one"

Listening to Ben's and his lady friend disagreement brought me memories. i used to be in the same situation but in my case, the extreme happened. We stopped communicating all together :p i can't deny that i miss the time we had; or that i miss our friendship but refusal is something i can't bear. It would be the big E of the century for me.

Ben called again this morning. He got his amour propre switched off for 60sec and bid his lady friend Hello. They finally patched things up and are friends again. Another problem solved hurrah!

p/s: i believe that a man and a woman can be friends, platonic relationship does exist. But sometimes it takes more than two to tango.