Among other things I learned from Mak, I have always admire her ability to mingle and make friends with God-knows-who she meets at any places or occasions, effortlessly. Since I was little I tried as much as to emulate her friendliness in my own style and it somehow has become my nature eversince..i just love to make friends.
Over the years, I have discovered that one person does not only belongs to one particular group of friend. There are your childhood crowd, school, college, workmates, hangout buddies and people whom you happened to get to know and stay friends with without any relations to the previous groups mentioned earlier.
I also realized that becoming flexible in how I related to people of varying beliefs and world views helped me to become more secure in my own beliefs. I began to feel less apprehension about 'those people'. Whatever they believed, it wasn't going to stop me from living my life the way I wanted to or pursuing my beliefs. I can just sit there at a bar with a bunch of friends, sipping glasses of cranberry juice, getting high on sugar and having fun. Being the group's only sobriety, I gained the respect I deserve by sticking to my Belief. And I respect them for respecting my Belief and me for that matter.
Learning to casually interact with people who have fundamentally different views has helped me to develop friendships with a wide variety of people. It helped me to be open to what we do have in common more than what we don't. I am friends with people now that even just a few years ago I would have been snotty against. I have learned not to be judgmental and accept people the way they are as they accept me as me.
But life got very lonely. I wanted to make and keep friends. Heck I just wanted to lessen the amount of interpersonal conflict I had in my life. So, maybe I have changed throughout the years, that's me colouring my life with rainbows. I am who I am.
-diLs-
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Welcome back..been missing your writing.
It felt like reading my own story but only to realise that it's actually someone else's. I felt the connection very strongly..
It feels good to be who we are and be proud of it, isnt it. We have grown to become an individual rather than trying to follow the crowd. And the best is when other people sort of understand us and dont judge. But im sure you agree that - this thing doesnt come the first time..it has to be cultivated and one needs to have a very open-mind.
I was also taken with your last paragraph. Again..the feeling is mutual.
All the best to you and good luck with the 'colouring'. Welcome the change..change is good..well, most of the time...like Obama's words.."Change has come..." :-)
hmm what strike me the most is when people i considered friends start judging me and the crowd i hangout with..yeah we might go to the places where some people considered 'tempat tak baik', wear something some people considered inappropriate but then it's the person inside you, the Belief you uphold that matters.
i always believe in one thing, as long as you stay true to yourself, distance yourself from sifat-sifat mazmumah, insyaAllah Allah will guide you to His path.
Yes very true what you said. However..while it may be easier said than done, we cant really pay much care about what other ppl say about us esp when we know by heart that it's not true. People love to 'talk' regardless they r your friends or not. It's the human nature. Always intrigue with any slight changes in the ppl they know and bizzarely enough, ppl choose to see it as a bad thing instead of good. We all do that at some point in our life and eventually we will be at the receiving end too..
But I do agree it must be heartbreaking to know even our own good friends judge us instead of trying to understand us. If only ppl knew what's inside us..
Keep your spirit high and you already knew better..as long as you stay true to yourself and the almighty..that's all that matters..
"I have learned not to be judgmental and accept people the way they are as they accept me as me"
same goes to me..
btw kak dila, happy changing ;)
"I have learned not to be judgmental and accept people the way they are as they accept me as me"
same goes to me.
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